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  A constant question women of this millenium have to ask, Why is he acting like

a bitch? In dating and relationships its usually the women who are the

emotional ones, the naggers, do the crying in arguments, ask ‘where are you?’

5 million times via text or phone call. You know, typical female nonsense.

We’re emotional by nature so isn’t it expected? These days I give it to a few

women that are cool as cucumbers. There is no reason to behave in this manner.

Yet again the Female/Male Role Shifts have rerouted in the dating world big

time! (See Past Post)

   What manners do you ask? Outside of nagging -which is something an

upstanding man should never do, its the cry-baby behaviors, not being able to

get their way. When things have gone sour in the relationship, they want to play

the blame game. Usually when a woman walks away, its within themselves to

realize that things aren’t right, whether its mistreatment, infidelity, or the goals

don’t match. Men, its like this, take accountability for the bullshit, don’t cry about

it, OWN it. (Crying in the figurative sense.) When a man is done with his

girlfriend, slide, jump off or whatever terms you all use, there’s usually no real

explanation, unless she cheated or lied about something. Oh wait, no there is…..

‘This just isn’t going to work out.’ There’s also that cool ass guy that gives no

explanation to a woman, some men just stop answering phone calls and are MIA.

That’s still bitch ass behavior, no matter how cool you think you are.

   The lines of communication are simple. When emotions are involved, why do

the foolish route by losing control? Its not becoming to be that guy.  Blame not

having a father on it if you want to fellas, because a lot of women can say the

same.  Sadly enough in the African American community, single parent homes are

common and I can blame many mothers who coddled their baby boy and made

them feel they could do no wrong. But no, right is right and wrong is wrong.

No excuse is valid when you’ve allowed your Bitch Ass Behaviors to rear its ugly

head. Be real, balance all the pro’s and cons before coming at a female on some

cry baby shit.

   Have some dignity fellas -whatever happened to not letting them see you

sweat? Women are attracted to masculinity and strength, being able to feel

protected. We don’t want to feel we’re in a bitch-ass-cat fight! #ImJustSaying

*Note: Fellas the ladies will get their due the next relationship post*

So it’s cold outside, it is officially cuddle buddy season! Ya’ll already know!

Those hibernation evenings of movies and snacks, come spring time that is

suddenly a wrap. Who’s to blame for this? Well not having a clear understanding

of what it is that you want from your love/buddy/interest whatever you call it

-allows for this complication. Communication is lacking and living

in the moment seems to be the operative notion these days. So do we settle for

this cuddle buddy through this season instead of seeking a foundation and or

a real relationship?

We’ve all done it, totally beating ourselves up over what coulda, shoulda been,

or why did we even date him/her to begin with! Here are 7 ways to up lift &

rebuild yourself from this~~

1. FACE REALITY - accept that your relationship is over. Sometimes facing the aftermath of a bad breakup can be daunting. But understand you will be much better off emotionally if you can accept it and move on. It’s hard, but not impossible and since you’re a smart girl, you can do it.

2. BELIEVE YOUR EX THIS TIME – if your guy dumped you and told you he didn’t want to be with you anymore, believe him. Maybe he had a big problem telling you the truth in the past when you were in a relationship, but he’s actually telling you the truth this time. It might be hard to accept that someone you once loved no longer loves you, but it’s the truth and in order to move on you’re going to have to come to grips with that. Don’t sit by the phone, waiting for him to call because he won’t. Don’t ‘just happen’ to go to places you know he frequents in hopes of running into him there. He broke your heart, remember? Use your time to work on you and your future.

3. DON’T BE A HATER - whatever he did to you, don’t hate him for it. It takes up too much of your precious time and energy to harbor feelings of hatred toward him. You can also become so consumed with hatred that you stop living your life for you and it becomes all about your ex. You need to get to the point where you can actually feel sorry for the bastard who broke your heart because he is really a damaged person who needs to learn how to behave properly in a romantic relationship.

4. CREATE A NEW HABIT TO REPLACE YOUR BAD BOYFRIEND HABIT – after a breakup, it’s important to add new activities to your routine. Exercise, learn a new language or go back to school. You may not feel like doing anything more than sulking on your couch, but now’s not the time. Right now, it’s time to start adding new, fun and exciting activities to your routine. Try something new and watch how quickly your life and your spirit change.

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